During the honeymoon stage everything seems perfect. The place you just moved to looks idyllic, everything is exciting and fascinating. You can’t wait to explore the surroundings, get to know the city and find your favourite spots. You feel confident that everything will be good, and that your decision to move was the best decision you have ever made.
During the distress stage you might start having doubts. After some time, places do not feel so new anymore, you start noticing things you didn’t before, things that might annoy you. You may feel like this place is not that perfect after all, things may work in a way that is unusual to you and you might have difficulties understanding why. You might blame your frustration on the country, forgetting that it takes some time to adapt to a new place.
Some may encounter an additional “sub-phase” that we can call “Idealization”. In this case, you may start idealizing your home country. You may start remembering only the best things, and home sickness might kick in. Suddenly your home country seems like the only place that suits you, the best place to be.
After all those doubts, you might slowly start seeing things in a different light. You will not just see the negative aspects, but you will also start seeing again those things that made this place look so fascinating in the beginning. You will start to get used to how things work in this new place and you will feel a new wave of positivity.
This is the time when you finally start feeling at home, you are getting used to how things work and you are finally starting to call this your new home. By this time, you might have already found your favourite spots in the city and you might have met new people, made new friends. Probably your schedule will also be more organized by then and you will start having a new routine.